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A Guide for the New Year

Stephen White

Insensitive people have the reputation for being confrontational, in their negotiations as with everything else. They don't come more insensitive than New York City taxi drivers. In a seasonal spirit of collaboration and goodwill, we offer this blog, which has been doing the rounds for some time now.

A NYC Taxi driver wrote

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going  to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up  to the door and knocked. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged  across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress  and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.
By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the  furniture was covered with sheets.
There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard  box filled with photos and glassware.
'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the  woman.
She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I  would want my mother to be treated.'
'Oh, you're such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could  you drive  through downtown?'
'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.
'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft  voice .'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as  an elevator operator.
We drove through the neighbourhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She  had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as  a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the  darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home,  with a driveway that passed under a portico.
Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every  move.
They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
'How much do I owe you?' She asked, reaching into her purse.
'Nothing,' I said
'You have to make a living,' she answered.
'There are other passengers,' I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of  the closing of a life..
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could  hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if  I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.  We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.
But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

We hope that all your negotiations in 2013 are collaborative and creative.

Stephen White
Managing Partner

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